Dealing with friends who lie online

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I've been encountering lately some friends who have boldly lied to me and I'm not sure how I want to deal with them. A couple have admitted to lying and given an excuse as to why they felt it was okay to do so (it was to benefit them, of course). The purpose of the lie doesn't matter for my post here, but I want to tackle how a Christian deals with friends who lie to them (without remorse, I might add).
 

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...probably just gradually withdraw from contacts with them.

This is assuming, as I think you've indicated, that they have admitted to the lies but offered no apologies and expressed no particular regret.

For you to show a lot of disgust or to confront them further is likely to fall on deaf ears and, at the same time, it will make you feel worse in the process.

Besides, for you to do anything along those lines means that it would be very difficult to mend the relationship in the future if that opportunity were ever to arise, perhaps because those people at last come to the realization of what their lies did to the friendship or simply that lying is wrong.
 

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If I can't trust someone it's hard to see how I can stay friends with them. Maybe acquaintances, drinking buddies or some other more casual version of friendship where no particular level of trust is required, but not a deep friendship.
 

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I've been encountering lately some friends who have boldly lied to me and I'm not sure how I want to deal with them. A couple have admitted to lying and given an excuse as to why they felt it was okay to do so (it was to benefit them, of course). The purpose of the lie doesn't matter for my post here, but I want to tackle how a Christian deals with friends who lie to them (without remorse, I might add).
It is not on us to judge. Do not blame the person but understand it is the sin in him that made him/her do that. Forgive him/her. But forgiving doesn't mean you have to talk to him/her.
 
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